Your first letter is very important, a girl you're writing to will
decide if to answer it or not, and I think there are
several things
you must reflect in your first letter. I will enlist them.
First, there must be general information - your name, age, the place
you're living in, your work, your education,
some words about your
appearance (height and weight, and better in centimeters and
kilograms) which hardly can
be found on the photo. As I've already
mentioned, I'm convinced you should send a photo with your first
letter! It
was very often, when I didn't respond the letter just
because it was without a photo or I gave up correspondence in
several
letters when I still didn't know what the person looked like. At the
same time it won't do to send only a
photo with words: "If you like
it, write to me". Maybe I don't like your photo, but you have a
brilliant soul - show it
to me in your introductory letter!
Please, don't write hundreds of lines listing the qualities of yours -
"I'm serious, reliable, hard-working, kind, calm
bla-bla-bla". It's
great you can describe yourself in this way, I will understand if it's
true during our further
correspondence. What I'm more interested in is
whether you're suitable for me in terms of your appearance,
interests, thoughts about marriage, ideas of an ideal mate etc.
The next thing I'd like to emphasize is that your letter should be
special! It must be very obvious, but I received
many letters with
another name in the title or anywhere in the text, letters which can
be sent to hundreds of other
women. Do you think I will be really
interested in communicating with this person? Read the ad of a woman
carefully, comment on something she wrote, tell her compliments -
women are women and they like to feel special,
needed and praised.
Make a little research and find out where the town the woman is living
in is located. She will
be pleasantly surprised and be sure you're
really interested in her! Of course, there can be some parts of
information the same in all first letters, but be careful! Read your
letter from the very beginning before sending it!
I feel insulted when
receive letters with another women's names and don't answer them.
I know what you're thinking now - many Russian girls are sending a
form letter in response of the first or second
letter she receives.
Please, understand - English is not her native language, sometimes
it's very difficult for her to
write this first letter, or she pays
for the translation - you shouldn't be offended by it! When I
responded, I tried to
make every letter special, answering questions I
was asked. But there are few girls who can do the same, just
because of their problems with English.